BETTER LIVING

"Our time is limited...don't waste it living someone else's life " steve jobs " When I was young,all I dreamt about was having a big house,a big car and a beautiful family.But as I grew older I realised that its the little things that count.All I wanna do is be alive.That's all.We continue chasing vanity and worrying so much about tomorrow hence forgetting to live today.There is so much power in optimism,living each moment and hoping that the next moment will be as great as the previous one. We clothe ourselves in so much fear of the next moment,that we lose the essence of life.Life will go on,with or without your fear,so you better secure your armor and live on.No matter how much your situation scares you,remember Daniel was thrown in the den of lions,and God stood with him.If you can't control your situation,then just live and God will do his job.That little faith you got will move your mountain. Fear will rob you of your peace,it will limit your pot...

Life is not about avoiding the bruises but collecting the scars to prove that we showed up for it. Life is not about chasing perfection but loving our imperfections perfectly. Life is not about holding back because we are afraid of being judged but being fearless in pursuit of what sets our souls on fire. Life is not about accepting mediocre but pursuing quality. Whenever you try so hard to be "good enough" ,you will never win.You are good enough without even trying.Before you were born,God knew you.You were perfect from the beginning.Society has conditioned us to believe that we must iron our humane in order to fix our material for a certain course. Times have changed.The centuries have become.Decades have streamlined history and crazy is oftenly erupting.Life has become a competition with the existence of social media and filters. We are too afraid to make choices that we evolve into victims of circumstance.We live under the mercy of our circumstances in life,we live ...

For some reason,I think women give men too much power to rain on their parade.It's bizarrely ridiculous how some men will keep on feeding ladies with their delusional wits and still succumb to their dumb ass ideologies. "Unastay solo" TYPE Like seriously? Your ID reads 26 ,and you work every single day and some son of a bi....biscuit asks you this.Its bizarrely uncool people!! You will be surprised to know that such a dude is lazy and bored with himself  and oh! he even wants to pass by your place when he is in the neighbourhood.Trust me girl,he will be in the neighbourhood,and ohooo ! he may be hot too.The worst answer will be YES.Thank me later. "Nicome nikupee massage?" TYPE Wait,what!Are you kidding me!! You cannot even offer to wash your aged grandfather's back in the village.You pay someone to do it.Go get me a spa session dude or sell that Infinix of yours and buy yourself some better vibe. "Babe nirushie 2k nitarefund next week" TYPE ...

Finding yourself consists of peeling off years of social conditioning,to find a self as it existed during childhood,unmasked.Some people get lost for so long,they forget what it was like to be themselves. We have all travelled in difficult roads and made the wrong steps in the right direction.It becomes impossible to find yourself again amidst all the troubles of this life. The most unfair thing you can do to yourself is to live under the mercy of situations.The situations that sorround your life should not define you or determine your destiny.Be careful not to become comfortable with your situation,it is not the end of the road for you. Learn to embrace the situations that come in your life,you barely have any control over things that happen to you.In every situation,there is a lesson to be learnt.Hold on to the belief that there is a reason for every season in your life. Your life is like a documentary.There are episodes of tears and pain,others of joy and laughter.But you ca...

Getting the right eyebrow arc can take you a long time and the right eyebrow shape can totally change the way your face looks.There are different eyebrow shapes for different face shapes. Does one eyebrow always look better than the other ? The answer is YES.Eyebrows are supposed to be sisters,not twins. Personally I have come a long way with my eyebrows.People ask me how I achieve my eyebrows shape but I honestly don't have a perfect answer because it has taken a lot of practice to get here.   Anyone can have perfect eyebrows,you just have to take the matter into your own hands. STOP visiting your local salonist to have your eyebrows trimmed!!No one understands your eyebrows struggle better than you.If you want them done by someone else, please visit a professional. Basically a long face shape can look "too long",a flat eyebrow shape shortens the face shape. If you have a round face,(like mine)you should have slightly high arched eyebrows.This will bring out your...

So how was your valentines day? I am asking this in low tones because I do not want to stir the demons of disillusionment.Sometimes its better to grasp the world as it is rather than to persist in delusions however satisfying or reassuring.There is true love in the universe,undoubtedly.But its outlandish to hang on to complicated relationships with hope that your partner will be straight with you someday. Do I believe in true love? Ofcourse I do.If you have ever fallen in love genuinely you will understand the divinity of love.That feeling of deep affection towards someone is out of this world.This brings me to my point.DON'T WASTE SOMEONE'S TIME if you are not in love with them!! Or you are fifty-fifty about them.Let them go and meet their destined partners.Some people talk like they are single,behave like they are single and live like they are single but still want to be in a relationship and not be "single".You can't have it both ways,you need to get rid of ...

There are things that I don't believe in.Like infidelity and violence.Seriously,its really hard to just ignore this two and live on to the future.Women have become victims of this two monsters at a higher perecentage but the society expects them to hang on and have faith in their marriages and relationships. No,please don't tell me to have faith.The shoe hurts and its difficult to take another step.Give me another shoe or I will just walk barefooted.I mean,violence is sugar coated with names like "slaps of love" or "just a little discipline". Its unbelievable how women have accepted this vice and made peace with the intentions. Ask any woman why she won't leave after the first slap and she will tell you that you know nothing about marriage.Yea!you damn right I don't know your definition of marriage ma'am. Women have accepted cheating,they are not even bothered by any selfish behaviour from their partners.They will cause drama and throw tant...

There is always something to say about women,but rarely about men.At this time in history,there is a bunch of words and reference for everyone.Apparently slay queen is a very common word used to refer to a certain category of ladies. But just like woman is to man,so is  slay queen is  to slay king. Incase you are confused,lets see who a slay king is: TRENDY. A slay king has a fashion sense. He is that lad you will see walking past the supermarket and you will like him without even seeing his face. He has a funny hairdo that matches his character. CHATTY. He is always on Instagram,whatsapp and facebook with catchy posts and vibes.He uploads very nice photos,the kind that any woman will stare at and wonder wether he is for real.This type of guy will never blue tick you and he will never miss your calls.He is socially available. BROKE. He is ever broke and Jobless but has expensive stuff.He is that guy that will never have airtime on his phone but has bundles to bombard l...

There is nothing like a "perfect" relationship.No matter how adorable it may look to the public,it does not mean that it is perfect.It can be very depressing and draining to be in a unhealthy relationship.This applies to all kinds of relationships like friendships,family relationship and romantic relationships. There are major elements that should characterize a healthy relationship,read them through and ask yourself wether the relationship you are in is healthy or not. 1. YOU WANT TO BE IN IT This is most fundamental element.You have to want to be in a relationship with the person in the first place without being forced.It should be out of love,care and concern for them.If you find yourself questioning your willingness to be in a relationship with them,you should probably stop being unfair to yourself and let them be. 2. YOU CAN BE YOURSELF In a healthy relationship,you must be able to express yourself without being judged.Sometimes its so easy to lose yourself in the pr...

I have come to the conclusion that being alone is a goodluck charm to disney world.Having one or two friends is another charm to a happy life.Sometimes I think people are crazy or I am even crazier because some character traits are unfathomable,they are totally incomprehensible.Totally avoid this kind of people: *THE SLANDERER Ofcourse the first recipe of a good friendship is the ability to talk about other people and laugh at their stupidity in a sweet and funny way.But everything has limits!!There are this people who always talk about other people so negatively that it hurts.You will see them hanging out with them and then copy paste the vibes to you.They are venomous!!Such people will chock your person one day and bring you down. *THE PRETENDER . There is this friend who is always saying how she loves you and hates other people.Duh!!Issa lie!!She tells that to each of her friend!She can't control herself,she moves from friend to friend harvesting all the benefits and before ...

The  world is full of uncertainties,judgement, fear,betrayal,bitterness and so many vices.I admire the people who have risen against all odds and became whatever they wanted to be without fear of intimidation. Its insanely cool to be yourself.Life becomes easier and happiness becomes a lifestyle.Stop being indecisive about yourself and don't second guess your identity.You can spend 40 years of your life living a lie,but that one day that you will wake up,hit the reality button and ease into your own being,you will know true happiness. Never be afraid to speak your mind or do whatever you wish because this life is yours to live!!Be unapologetic about yourself,your lifestyle,your thoughts,your belief and everything about you.You are the one wearing the shoe and only you knows where the shoe hurts.Don't imitate,don't forge,don't pretend and don't be paranoid all the time.Breathe and just be you.Know your worth and you will be worthy among the worthy. Let people know...

The essence of life is simply living.Without complications,without fear,without anxiety.It is in living,that we get to tap every power within us and beyond us. Sometimes I thought I was unfortunate because of the many things that I ddn't have.Till I met someone who was dying and they had a wish, that God could take away everything but life.It taught me something,that life is worth so much more than what is apparent to the human mind. Sometimes I thought that I was sad,because things were not going according to my expectations.Till I met someone who had just lost her baby,and another had just lost her mother.It taught me that sadness will come and pass and that it is okey to be sad.But in that sadness,we should hold on to our faith.Never letting go of hope,because where faith and hope is,you will find life there.You will find the strength to live on there.It is like reading a thrilling novel,but in this novel you are the main character.You keep reading and reading till you get to ...

Are you single? Oh wait,complicated huh? People fear to be single,they think being single means lonely.I think being single is a gift.Being single means you are whole. Its more easier to be single than to be single AGAIN.You know,when you just thought the relationship was doing great and then it takes an unxpected turn.But once you are single,pour yourself a glass of wine and celebrate yourself. People often make the mistake of using other people to get over their loneliness.They say "Single and having fun" and the circle goes on.Before you even understand what you want,you take anything that comes along and end up single AGAIN. Being single means you got a new package of energy,enthusiasm,and passion to do whatever you want. You are not a fraction or a part of something,you are WHOLE. At that point,you do not need someone to complete you but to complement you.You are not someone's better half,you are a WHOLE of you. In relationships and marriages,you will have to...

The other day someone told me that marriages and relationships are not the way they used to be,and I agree!The traditional structure of family and how people soldiered on peacefully with very rare cases of divorce and drama is long gone. In our African tradition, the society has expectations from every married couple, upto the individual level.The pyramid has been squeezed to fit onto the shrine of society such that every step you take echoes to its hands.If you are not strong enough,you may end up in darkness. For instance,if you felt that your marriage is not working,you are not supposed to leave,so says society.You are supposed to pray harder,and learn not to provoke each other.But what about your person? your soul? your purpose? Its all washed down in the well of guilt,fear and disillusionment. If you happen to be unmarried at the age of 30, you are prone to suffer ridicule and judgement from the society.Your purpose blurrs and you can't even see the light at the end of the ...

It is a sad reality that many kenyans roast under the snares of joblessness. Many people are looking for jobs, and when they don't get the job they will settle for anything. I remember when I just finished college,I had a bunch of things I wanted to do like moving out of my parents house,starting life,getting my dream job and starting a business as a side hustle.But it ddn't all happen in that order.The real world is tough and competitive,more of survival for the fittest.I got jobs that really did not make me happy,and I was scared to start a good business because I was afraid of making losses or losing my money. Some people will get jobs easily,others may search for a long time.So I put together a few ideas that have worked for people I know and may be you could try some of them and earn some cash. * SERVICES. You can start offering services like laundry and cleaning by looking for people(e.g 2 people) who can do laundry and look for others who want their laundry and cleani...

A heartbreak is more painful than most pains.Its like blood literally gushing out of your heart leaving you hollow and weak. It is the worst form of pain that can be inflicted on someone. When your partner decides to play his games on you and you end up on the receiving end, the first thing you should know is: * IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU .Their actions have nothing to do with you! Its solely about them and their dirty games. And whatever they were upto when they hurt you,it won't last long. They will wander and chase vanity till it hits them that you were significant in their lives. *DO NOT ENGAGE . As much as you miss them,refrain yourself from calling or texting them.Don't drink in the name of stress and then start calling them in the wee hours crying and playing victim,you won't forgive yourself after that. *DISTRACT YOURSELF. It is not your burden to carry, so go out with your friends,watch your favourite  movies,listen to your favourite podcasts or songs,read your fav...

Most of my friends who are still single argue that love is useless and relationships are full of crap.Other friends who are married argue that marriage is a den of stress and captivity.Some of my friends who are dating or who just found love argue that love is a beautiful thing. They are always vibrant and full of energy, because they believe in love and can't imagine any better way to live than to love. In my perspective, I think love is sweet,very sweet.Marriage is even sweeter.It doesn't matter if you are in a stressful marriage or a happy one, the fact that you made the choice to share your life with someone and they became family is what matters.If you are happy in your marriage,pray that it stays that way. If your marriage is stressful with issues on and on,be brave because you are learning a lot. In both cases,you will realise a part of you that you never knew existed before. You will get a clear picture of what you really deserve as a person. Marriage should not s...

How are you? Welcome to my blog. Its all about inspirations to help us get through life. Well if you are reading this, you must be looking for something better, some spice to make life sweeter. I am too!! I believe in life, I believe in every breath,do you?I love life, no matter how many times it has proved to be a son of a b.... biscuit, we gotta believe in it and what it offers. Enjoy your reading!!