BETTER LIVING

Finding yourself consists of peeling off years of social conditioning,to find a self as it existed during childhood,unmasked.Some people get lost for so long,they forget what it was like to be themselves. We have all travelled in difficult roads and made the wrong steps in the right direction.It becomes impossible to find yourself again amidst all the troubles of this life. The most unfair thing you can do to yourself is to live under the mercy of situations.The situations that sorround your life should not define you or determine your destiny.Be careful not to become comfortable with your situation,it is not the end of the road for you. Learn to embrace the situations that come in your life,you barely have any control over things that happen to you.In every situation,there is a lesson to be learnt.Hold on to the belief that there is a reason for every season in your life. Your life is like a documentary.There are episodes of tears and pain,others of joy and laughter.But you ca...

Getting the right eyebrow arc can take you a long time and the right eyebrow shape can totally change the way your face looks.There are different eyebrow shapes for different face shapes. Does one eyebrow always look better than the other ? The answer is YES.Eyebrows are supposed to be sisters,not twins. Personally I have come a long way with my eyebrows.People ask me how I achieve my eyebrows shape but I honestly don't have a perfect answer because it has taken a lot of practice to get here.   Anyone can have perfect eyebrows,you just have to take the matter into your own hands. STOP visiting your local salonist to have your eyebrows trimmed!!No one understands your eyebrows struggle better than you.If you want them done by someone else, please visit a professional. Basically a long face shape can look "too long",a flat eyebrow shape shortens the face shape. If you have a round face,(like mine)you should have slightly high arched eyebrows.This will bring out your...

So how was your valentines day? I am asking this in low tones because I do not want to stir the demons of disillusionment.Sometimes its better to grasp the world as it is rather than to persist in delusions however satisfying or reassuring.There is true love in the universe,undoubtedly.But its outlandish to hang on to complicated relationships with hope that your partner will be straight with you someday. Do I believe in true love? Ofcourse I do.If you have ever fallen in love genuinely you will understand the divinity of love.That feeling of deep affection towards someone is out of this world.This brings me to my point.DON'T WASTE SOMEONE'S TIME if you are not in love with them!! Or you are fifty-fifty about them.Let them go and meet their destined partners.Some people talk like they are single,behave like they are single and live like they are single but still want to be in a relationship and not be "single".You can't have it both ways,you need to get rid of ...

There are things that I don't believe in.Like infidelity and violence.Seriously,its really hard to just ignore this two and live on to the future.Women have become victims of this two monsters at a higher perecentage but the society expects them to hang on and have faith in their marriages and relationships. No,please don't tell me to have faith.The shoe hurts and its difficult to take another step.Give me another shoe or I will just walk barefooted.I mean,violence is sugar coated with names like "slaps of love" or "just a little discipline". Its unbelievable how women have accepted this vice and made peace with the intentions. Ask any woman why she won't leave after the first slap and she will tell you that you know nothing about marriage.Yea!you damn right I don't know your definition of marriage ma'am. Women have accepted cheating,they are not even bothered by any selfish behaviour from their partners.They will cause drama and throw tant...

There is always something to say about women,but rarely about men.At this time in history,there is a bunch of words and reference for everyone.Apparently slay queen is a very common word used to refer to a certain category of ladies. But just like woman is to man,so is  slay queen is  to slay king. Incase you are confused,lets see who a slay king is: TRENDY. A slay king has a fashion sense. He is that lad you will see walking past the supermarket and you will like him without even seeing his face. He has a funny hairdo that matches his character. CHATTY. He is always on Instagram,whatsapp and facebook with catchy posts and vibes.He uploads very nice photos,the kind that any woman will stare at and wonder wether he is for real.This type of guy will never blue tick you and he will never miss your calls.He is socially available. BROKE. He is ever broke and Jobless but has expensive stuff.He is that guy that will never have airtime on his phone but has bundles to bombard l...

There is nothing like a "perfect" relationship.No matter how adorable it may look to the public,it does not mean that it is perfect.It can be very depressing and draining to be in a unhealthy relationship.This applies to all kinds of relationships like friendships,family relationship and romantic relationships. There are major elements that should characterize a healthy relationship,read them through and ask yourself wether the relationship you are in is healthy or not. 1. YOU WANT TO BE IN IT This is most fundamental element.You have to want to be in a relationship with the person in the first place without being forced.It should be out of love,care and concern for them.If you find yourself questioning your willingness to be in a relationship with them,you should probably stop being unfair to yourself and let them be. 2. YOU CAN BE YOURSELF In a healthy relationship,you must be able to express yourself without being judged.Sometimes its so easy to lose yourself in the pr...

I have come to the conclusion that being alone is a goodluck charm to disney world.Having one or two friends is another charm to a happy life.Sometimes I think people are crazy or I am even crazier because some character traits are unfathomable,they are totally incomprehensible.Totally avoid this kind of people: *THE SLANDERER Ofcourse the first recipe of a good friendship is the ability to talk about other people and laugh at their stupidity in a sweet and funny way.But everything has limits!!There are this people who always talk about other people so negatively that it hurts.You will see them hanging out with them and then copy paste the vibes to you.They are venomous!!Such people will chock your person one day and bring you down. *THE PRETENDER . There is this friend who is always saying how she loves you and hates other people.Duh!!Issa lie!!She tells that to each of her friend!She can't control herself,she moves from friend to friend harvesting all the benefits and before ...

The  world is full of uncertainties,judgement, fear,betrayal,bitterness and so many vices.I admire the people who have risen against all odds and became whatever they wanted to be without fear of intimidation. Its insanely cool to be yourself.Life becomes easier and happiness becomes a lifestyle.Stop being indecisive about yourself and don't second guess your identity.You can spend 40 years of your life living a lie,but that one day that you will wake up,hit the reality button and ease into your own being,you will know true happiness. Never be afraid to speak your mind or do whatever you wish because this life is yours to live!!Be unapologetic about yourself,your lifestyle,your thoughts,your belief and everything about you.You are the one wearing the shoe and only you knows where the shoe hurts.Don't imitate,don't forge,don't pretend and don't be paranoid all the time.Breathe and just be you.Know your worth and you will be worthy among the worthy. Let people know...

The essence of life is simply living.Without complications,without fear,without anxiety.It is in living,that we get to tap every power within us and beyond us. Sometimes I thought I was unfortunate because of the many things that I ddn't have.Till I met someone who was dying and they had a wish, that God could take away everything but life.It taught me something,that life is worth so much more than what is apparent to the human mind. Sometimes I thought that I was sad,because things were not going according to my expectations.Till I met someone who had just lost her baby,and another had just lost her mother.It taught me that sadness will come and pass and that it is okey to be sad.But in that sadness,we should hold on to our faith.Never letting go of hope,because where faith and hope is,you will find life there.You will find the strength to live on there.It is like reading a thrilling novel,but in this novel you are the main character.You keep reading and reading till you get to ...

Are you single? Oh wait,complicated huh? People fear to be single,they think being single means lonely.I think being single is a gift.Being single means you are whole. Its more easier to be single than to be single AGAIN.You know,when you just thought the relationship was doing great and then it takes an unxpected turn.But once you are single,pour yourself a glass of wine and celebrate yourself. People often make the mistake of using other people to get over their loneliness.They say "Single and having fun" and the circle goes on.Before you even understand what you want,you take anything that comes along and end up single AGAIN. Being single means you got a new package of energy,enthusiasm,and passion to do whatever you want. You are not a fraction or a part of something,you are WHOLE. At that point,you do not need someone to complete you but to complement you.You are not someone's better half,you are a WHOLE of you. In relationships and marriages,you will have to...

The other day someone told me that marriages and relationships are not the way they used to be,and I agree!The traditional structure of family and how people soldiered on peacefully with very rare cases of divorce and drama is long gone. In our African tradition, the society has expectations from every married couple, upto the individual level.The pyramid has been squeezed to fit onto the shrine of society such that every step you take echoes to its hands.If you are not strong enough,you may end up in darkness. For instance,if you felt that your marriage is not working,you are not supposed to leave,so says society.You are supposed to pray harder,and learn not to provoke each other.But what about your person? your soul? your purpose? Its all washed down in the well of guilt,fear and disillusionment. If you happen to be unmarried at the age of 30, you are prone to suffer ridicule and judgement from the society.Your purpose blurrs and you can't even see the light at the end of the ...