BETTER LIVING

There is nothing like a "perfect" relationship.No matter how adorable it may look to the public,it does not mean that it is perfect.It can be very depressing and draining to be in a unhealthy relationship.This applies to all kinds of relationships like friendships,family relationship and romantic relationships. There are major elements that should characterize a healthy relationship,read them through and ask yourself wether the relationship you are in is healthy or not. 1. YOU WANT TO BE IN IT This is most fundamental element.You have to want to be in a relationship with the person in the first place without being forced.It should be out of love,care and concern for them.If you find yourself questioning your willingness to be in a relationship with them,you should probably stop being unfair to yourself and let them be. 2. YOU CAN BE YOURSELF In a healthy relationship,you must be able to express yourself without being judged.Sometimes its so easy to lose yourself in the pr...

I have come to the conclusion that being alone is a goodluck charm to disney world.Having one or two friends is another charm to a happy life.Sometimes I think people are crazy or I am even crazier because some character traits are unfathomable,they are totally incomprehensible.Totally avoid this kind of people: *THE SLANDERER Ofcourse the first recipe of a good friendship is the ability to talk about other people and laugh at their stupidity in a sweet and funny way.But everything has limits!!There are this people who always talk about other people so negatively that it hurts.You will see them hanging out with them and then copy paste the vibes to you.They are venomous!!Such people will chock your person one day and bring you down. *THE PRETENDER . There is this friend who is always saying how she loves you and hates other people.Duh!!Issa lie!!She tells that to each of her friend!She can't control herself,she moves from friend to friend harvesting all the benefits and before ...

The  world is full of uncertainties,judgement, fear,betrayal,bitterness and so many vices.I admire the people who have risen against all odds and became whatever they wanted to be without fear of intimidation. Its insanely cool to be yourself.Life becomes easier and happiness becomes a lifestyle.Stop being indecisive about yourself and don't second guess your identity.You can spend 40 years of your life living a lie,but that one day that you will wake up,hit the reality button and ease into your own being,you will know true happiness. Never be afraid to speak your mind or do whatever you wish because this life is yours to live!!Be unapologetic about yourself,your lifestyle,your thoughts,your belief and everything about you.You are the one wearing the shoe and only you knows where the shoe hurts.Don't imitate,don't forge,don't pretend and don't be paranoid all the time.Breathe and just be you.Know your worth and you will be worthy among the worthy. Let people know...

The essence of life is simply living.Without complications,without fear,without anxiety.It is in living,that we get to tap every power within us and beyond us. Sometimes I thought I was unfortunate because of the many things that I ddn't have.Till I met someone who was dying and they had a wish, that God could take away everything but life.It taught me something,that life is worth so much more than what is apparent to the human mind. Sometimes I thought that I was sad,because things were not going according to my expectations.Till I met someone who had just lost her baby,and another had just lost her mother.It taught me that sadness will come and pass and that it is okey to be sad.But in that sadness,we should hold on to our faith.Never letting go of hope,because where faith and hope is,you will find life there.You will find the strength to live on there.It is like reading a thrilling novel,but in this novel you are the main character.You keep reading and reading till you get to ...

Are you single? Oh wait,complicated huh? People fear to be single,they think being single means lonely.I think being single is a gift.Being single means you are whole. Its more easier to be single than to be single AGAIN.You know,when you just thought the relationship was doing great and then it takes an unxpected turn.But once you are single,pour yourself a glass of wine and celebrate yourself. People often make the mistake of using other people to get over their loneliness.They say "Single and having fun" and the circle goes on.Before you even understand what you want,you take anything that comes along and end up single AGAIN. Being single means you got a new package of energy,enthusiasm,and passion to do whatever you want. You are not a fraction or a part of something,you are WHOLE. At that point,you do not need someone to complete you but to complement you.You are not someone's better half,you are a WHOLE of you. In relationships and marriages,you will have to...

The other day someone told me that marriages and relationships are not the way they used to be,and I agree!The traditional structure of family and how people soldiered on peacefully with very rare cases of divorce and drama is long gone. In our African tradition, the society has expectations from every married couple, upto the individual level.The pyramid has been squeezed to fit onto the shrine of society such that every step you take echoes to its hands.If you are not strong enough,you may end up in darkness. For instance,if you felt that your marriage is not working,you are not supposed to leave,so says society.You are supposed to pray harder,and learn not to provoke each other.But what about your person? your soul? your purpose? Its all washed down in the well of guilt,fear and disillusionment. If you happen to be unmarried at the age of 30, you are prone to suffer ridicule and judgement from the society.Your purpose blurrs and you can't even see the light at the end of the ...

It is a sad reality that many kenyans roast under the snares of joblessness. Many people are looking for jobs, and when they don't get the job they will settle for anything. I remember when I just finished college,I had a bunch of things I wanted to do like moving out of my parents house,starting life,getting my dream job and starting a business as a side hustle.But it ddn't all happen in that order.The real world is tough and competitive,more of survival for the fittest.I got jobs that really did not make me happy,and I was scared to start a good business because I was afraid of making losses or losing my money. Some people will get jobs easily,others may search for a long time.So I put together a few ideas that have worked for people I know and may be you could try some of them and earn some cash. * SERVICES. You can start offering services like laundry and cleaning by looking for people(e.g 2 people) who can do laundry and look for others who want their laundry and cleani...

A heartbreak is more painful than most pains.Its like blood literally gushing out of your heart leaving you hollow and weak. It is the worst form of pain that can be inflicted on someone. When your partner decides to play his games on you and you end up on the receiving end, the first thing you should know is: * IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU .Their actions have nothing to do with you! Its solely about them and their dirty games. And whatever they were upto when they hurt you,it won't last long. They will wander and chase vanity till it hits them that you were significant in their lives. *DO NOT ENGAGE . As much as you miss them,refrain yourself from calling or texting them.Don't drink in the name of stress and then start calling them in the wee hours crying and playing victim,you won't forgive yourself after that. *DISTRACT YOURSELF. It is not your burden to carry, so go out with your friends,watch your favourite  movies,listen to your favourite podcasts or songs,read your fav...

Most of my friends who are still single argue that love is useless and relationships are full of crap.Other friends who are married argue that marriage is a den of stress and captivity.Some of my friends who are dating or who just found love argue that love is a beautiful thing. They are always vibrant and full of energy, because they believe in love and can't imagine any better way to live than to love. In my perspective, I think love is sweet,very sweet.Marriage is even sweeter.It doesn't matter if you are in a stressful marriage or a happy one, the fact that you made the choice to share your life with someone and they became family is what matters.If you are happy in your marriage,pray that it stays that way. If your marriage is stressful with issues on and on,be brave because you are learning a lot. In both cases,you will realise a part of you that you never knew existed before. You will get a clear picture of what you really deserve as a person. Marriage should not s...

How are you? Welcome to my blog. Its all about inspirations to help us get through life. Well if you are reading this, you must be looking for something better, some spice to make life sweeter. I am too!! I believe in life, I believe in every breath,do you?I love life, no matter how many times it has proved to be a son of a b.... biscuit, we gotta believe in it and what it offers. Enjoy your reading!!